Parenting is an art (pseuwisdom 16:1-9)
27 March 2008
1 Parenting is an art and although right now I didn't have a skill or experience to do it, but when I was a child I've experienced some of the art in me. There are several things that I experienced or wanted to experience as a child. Maybe it's right with some child, maybe it won't work with another. Like I said, it's an art. Eventhough parents or soon-to-be parents have read dozens of books, in the end, it's best for them just to throw away the books, but remembering some of its suggestion. Here are some that I didn't find in any books (if I ever read one)
2 One, punish yourself when you punish a child. Go to your room. No TV for a month. You're not allowed to play video games for a week. Sounds familiar? Well, it shouldn't be. Because if a child is making mistakes, you also making one in your parenting. So punish yourself and your kid together. Lock yourself together in his room. If he cannot watch tv, you cannot watch tv either. And never..never..hit your kid..
3 Two, tell us your era, when you're just like your kids. They didn't think that 70s or 80s is uncool. But if they don't know about that era, they might think that era is uncool. Don't let them think that the remake is the original. Tell them about koes plus, bing slamet, and elias pical. They'd like to know you when you're their age.
4 Three, teacher is not their main educator, you are. When it comes to wisdom, you're their main source. They believe and try to obey everything you said, as long as it's rational. If you said that it's bad to buy junk food, they will not do it. Don't ever let the educations of your child lays in their teacher or worst, their nanny.
5 Four, be a criminal with your child for one or two times. Steal something from the market with them and tell them why that's wrong. Drive through a red light and tell them why it's wrong. And the bonus is that your kids will see you as human and not some saint that always do a righteous thing. It's easier to make mistakes later on.
6 Five, say 'I'm sorry' if necessary. You're human, you make mistakes. Your kids will understand it.
7 Six, let your child make mistakes and don't be embarrassed by them. Remember it's all in one package. If your child is screaming and other people looking at you with scorn or pitiful eyes, that's the price you must pay. If they spoil something in restaurant, well, that's your price. They didn't care, they just doing their thing. It's you who feel embarrassed, like someone scold you for being a bad parents.
8 Seven, reward your child on report card. Okay this is my childhood speaking. My parents always reward me money for 7,8,9,10 that I have, while 5 or 6 have negative amount. All that saying about education in the system is for your own future is a bunch of lies, because how much education in the system that you will use until you grow up? Wisdom is more important in my opinion. At least with rewards, your childs will measure how much reward that they will get and calculate their strength and weakness to get optimal results.
9 Parenting is an art. Always remember that. There's no right or wrong. If something wrong, just fix it immediately.
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*kapan yah jadi emak2nya? wong yg mau dijadiin bapaknya aja lom ada..hihihihi
haha parenting is not easy as it looks like. :)
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hello bro...
thanks for dropin by at my little blog yach :)
nice to know u...
hmmm... bahasannya dalam euy...
intinya sih... kya na jadi orang tua itu... apa yach *hehehehehe*
let we see aja deh,ntar akan jadi orang tua seperti apakah saya :)
cheers
-jo-
parenting is an art...yeah
moga-moga aja ntar anak gw mukanya ngga mirip kanvas
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eniwei lam kenal ya. NICE BLOG!! =)
Kenapa "parents" kok diterjemahkan-nya "orang tua" ya? Padahal kan pasangan2 baru nikah dengan anak masih kecil itu kan gak tua2 amat ya...hihihi! Mendidik anak memang tidak bisa berpatokan pada buku pedoman. Apalagi tiap anak punya karakter yg unik dan berbeda. Saya sih suruh ngurus keponakan lebih dari 5 jam saja sudah angkat tangan :)